Mother’s Day interview with Jessica Fleming

The Islands Sounder interviewed Orcas Islander Jessica Fleming in honor of Mother’s Day, Sunday, May 14. Ms. Fleming is an infectious disease epidemiologist working in the field of international public health. She is the mother of her 9-year-old Edera, a student at her School of Salmonberry.

Sounder: Did you ever think you would one day become a mother? When and how did you decide to become a mother?

Jessica Fleming: When I was younger, I had this image of being in my late 20s, getting married, and having four kids by 35. Knowing who I am now, I’m glad it didn’t work out. In my early 40s, I decided to actively become a mother. With the encouragement and love of the family and friends that surrounded me, I adopted a wonderful daughter, Edera, three years later. We were helped along the way by dear friends who supported each other through the ups and downs of an international adoption. Our three of her children were all born in Ethiopia, but now she’s 8, 9 and 10 years old, stepping up in age, and the children treat each other like siblings. I am thinking.

Sounder: Please tell us about your child.

JF: Even a nine-year-old daughter is a smart soul. She has gone through a lot of changes when she was a baby, she is very adaptable and sometimes I feel like she already understands her life.Edera is very kind, smart and funny , competent, calm. She is curious about the world and obsessed with dogs!

SOUNDER: What did you learn from your mother?

JF: My role models as a mother are my mother Marilyn, my sister Shannon, and my sister-in-law Nicole. At the heart of their diverse parenting styles is a deep love and respect for children, an appreciation for each child’s unique personality, and a dedication to helping develop each individual’s passions and talents. My mother allowed me to be adventurous, take chances and discover new things, but she also gave me a lot of responsibility. It was supportive, but she gave me a sense of security and strength. I am trying to give her daughter the same.

SOUNDER: What have you learned from your children?

JF: Edera taught me patience. The importance of savoring the small things and appreciating the journey instead of focusing on the destination. She is also a great dance teacher. She taught me Shirley Temple and Maxi Ford’s tap steps while waiting for a recently delayed ferry!

Sounder: What’s the hardest thing about being a mother? What’s the best?

JF: I’m pretty independent, so the hardest thing for me about being a mother is feeling comfortable asking for help. But what a gift when you do! Neighbors and friends drive me to school. An afternoon play date so I can answer work calls. An invitation to dinner after a long day at work — Edera and I are living proof that it takes a village to raise a child. And I love seeing how her daughter is benefiting and thriving in the village. Without a doubt, becoming a mother is the best thing I have ever done in my life. I am grateful every day to the lucky stars who share their lives with such wonderful people.